Truth or Consequences, not the really old game show or the town in New Mexico. It is about being truthful to ourselves and the outcome if we’re not.
I’ve been training a few of my high ranking students for their next level of black belt. Part of any martial artist’s training is the self discovery within that training. As a teacher I’m looking more for the growth in the person than the actual technique. There are hundreds of examples of what I’m looking for during training for a Dan. The most important element; Is the student being true to his/her goal, and are they being truthful with themselves?
We all have tendencies to take ourselves for granted or imagine ourselves better than we actually are. I’ve had students on both ends of the spectrum. The extremely talented who slide by almost and often time effortlessly. They have all the tools except for the desire to be even BETTER! They except the Big Fish in the Small Pond status and never know or try for better. Is the person lazy or lacking confidence? My guess is probably both. Example B; is similar to example A, but with less talent. Somehow in their minds they are second coming of Bruce Lee! Again root cause of the false bravado is lack of confidence and laziness.
Why do they lie to themselves? Why do any of us lie? Because we’re afraid of the truth. Discovering we may be less than perfect or we don’t match up is keeping drug companies and therapist employed. There are different and varied layers to everyone’s onion. However until we don’t start discovering and dealing with our lies and their root cause, we will never reap the Consequence of a fully engaged life. Instead we will always be looking for ways to lie about the Consequences of our LIES… Funny thing about lies they only breed more, until we no longer recognize the TRUTH!
I’ve learned a lot of unpleasant things facing my truths, but in doing so I’m learning to be better at life. Which is far better than living a lie…