Some of the most difficult decisions in my teaching career (and in life) are the “When To’s” . I’m an adult child of an alcoholic and a certified enabler. Therefore I tend to want to do everything, to make it easier or right for the others involved. On the surface this behavior seems rather benign – It isn’t.
Always doing for others especially staff and students, prevents them from experiencing the growth they need. Yet there are times when in order to teach them properly I need to actually do what I’m asking to get done… (I know I’m talking in circles) . This is the dilemma; When to interfere and when to let go? I’m constantly at odds with myself over this. I want to get what I want the way I want without hurting anyone’s ego.
I know I have to trust my guides and learn from each situation, but it doesn’t make it any easier. For instance “When To” end this commentary?