Think Before Yes…

Yes, another blog on woman who do too much. Why ? I hear you asking. Because we need to become aware of the Chronic Yessers.  You know who they are, you maybe one of them. The woman who says yes to every organization, charity, family member, pet and stranger who ask for help.

Chronic Yessers start at an early age, wanting to please and be loved. They are the perfect daughter and the best friend. They  grow up believing they can save the world, by making everyone happy. Except WE Can’t! Yes my name is Ginnie and I’m a chronic YESSER! I’ve yessed my way to sleep deprivation, migraines, back pain, shoulder pain, and chronically Cranky! After decades of carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders – Leading to a left shoulder injury,(Probably over use). I’m here to say we don’t have to say YES to everyone!

What we need to start doing is thinking before we say yes. When someone asks you for a favor, to join a committee, or even to coffee. STOP and think about what is being asked and give it measurable meaning. For example watching a neighbors child for an hour can be measured as 60lbs. Can your shoulders take 60 pounds on top of the 120lb bake sale for the middle school? Notice how if we put weight to tasks or favors we are better able to see how we are becoming over burdened.

We’ve lost the ability to say no, we need to regain control over our lives and it starts with thinking before yes… By the way would anyone like to be on my committee to make habitual yessing a disease?

Don’t you dare say yes!

 

Ginnie

 

 

Avoiding Admission…

Do I really want to open this can a worms? Probably not, but here goes – I like some of you avoid admitting; That I’m wrong,  incapable ,  sick, injured, hurt, angry, bothered, fallible, HUMAN!  Yes, human… I am woman hear me roar! I’ve been saying I can do this by myself since the age of one!  Admitting anything else would be an admission of failure in the minds of us cape wearing super beings. Asking for assistance means giving up some “control” .  Giving up control is kryptonite to a Super Being!

I’m unclear when we first get hooked on the highly addictive drug “control”? My guess is, it happens to those of us who were raised in an overly controlled or a chaotic environment. I’m doubtful a control freak can be spawned in a balanced atmosphere. Wherever  or however it happens doesn’t really matter. What does matter is learning how to give up the obsessive need to control every outcome.  I also know in those rare occurrences when I do “Let Go and Let God” things always have a way of working out.

IT is time for me to admit, I am human. I will to do my best to turn over things that matter to a Higher Power  and ask friends for help  with the less pressing burdens. May I suggest the same to the rest of my cape wearing, control addicted, super being readers!

Admission is Free!

 

Ginnie

Stalled Out…

I’ve noticed a theme to a lot of the conversations I’ve had with friends, seems delays, or unexpected stoppages or just lack of time, energy or discipline has us “Stalled Out”… I’m thinking we somehow are all sharing the same issues, since we’re pretty much in the same age category known as the”Oreos”sandwiched between raising families and caring for aging parents.  There are minor repairs to be made on the house or car, closets to  sort, bills to pay and not much money to pay them with!  There are friends we mean to call, family we should visit, functions we’d love to attend, but we somehow can’t get our acts together!  We feel like we’re walking in molasses! Bogged down by careers and families we love, but unable to find time to enjoy being with them –  Seems like we’re always caring for them! Is it any wonder that a recent study shows that the people between the ages of 45 and 64 have the least satisfying quality of life!

Solutions anyone? I’m not sure there are any, but I do know when I’ve stalled out my car I call for assistance. Funny that’s another thing my friends and I have in common we never ask for help! I propose we Oreos form our own “Road Side Assistance” . Let’s offer each other a push or a jump start and more importantly ACCEPT one when offered…

Need a Tow?

Ginnie